[MUSIC] [VIDEO] ‘GUN’ BY EMILIANA TORRINI: Talk about a heavy narrative. From BBC’s ‘Luther’ soundtrack. Artistically superb.

Every day I see you looking in
I’ll be the smoothest thing to touch your skin
You’re longing to be loved but you’re alone
And your longing makes you shiver to the bone

And no, your mamma told you nothing of importance
No, your daddy taught you nothing you could learn
You had your sister’s weighing on your pockets
And your priest, he tries so hard to get you turned

Maybe you’ve been living lonely
While your woman has a fellow on the side
Your kids keep telling jokes that ain’t that funny
And you’ve failed in everything that comes to mind

Now you see I’m only here to let you know
That I love you and I’ll never let you go
So take me in the hand and walk on by
For the life this has to offer twists inside

Now your woman has a fellow in your bed
You have to go, you have to move right in
And the ring on your finger would leave another scar
But the joke’s on her, she hasn’t seen it all

So you shuffled up close and you shot him in the face
And your woman looked on and your children, they embraced
And the candle’s still burning and the fire’s roaring fire
You moved right in, yeah, you moved right in

Stuck, you’re shaking, sweating, whining and regretting
You’re making a scene but it’s gonna get you caught
Meet me in the barrel and tell me that you love me
Yes, this is a kiss that I swear will blow your mind”

The beating of women is due to mental illness–wanting to be the woman being beaten is the same–the other side of the coin

Irritated today by a radio interview I heard about the stupid Rihanna/Brown thing.

I can’t stand them, and am disappointed by how so many people are talking about them as though they matter…

But what really got my goat was the discussion NOT mentioning that Chris Brown is mentally ill.

The ‘expert’ went on about his “unfortunate lack of contrition”…

It sounded inane…like observing the lack of contrition of a schizophrenic.

And in the same vein…battered women are ILL TOO! 

Why is this not more commonly observed?

Sane women, when punched in the face the first time…LEAVE.



Do something, and seek recourse…take umbrage.

Insane women, seek that masochistic thrill over and over and over.

It’s been studied and reported on so many times in my life.

I am surprised that this whole episode is being discussed as though it were the 1950s or 1550s and not 2012, when we KNOW that..both parties to (chronic) Domestic Abuse are basically insane.

[And here, of course I am not looking to ‘blame the victim’, by any means…but observe a scientific reality]

I am not surprised, and am saddened that I am even babbling over this in this post.

I do not expect them, these “stars” to behave normally, nor do I expect people we may know, who are not celebrities, to behave normally .

Women who find themselves in a series of abusive relationships NEED HELP.

It is not easy, actually, to find the men who WILL actually punch you in the face, kick you when you’re down, and bruise you so it isn’t publicly visible…jesus.

You have to hunt for them.

This is the same reason I get infuriated when Honour Killing is quickly labelled, without thought, ‘Domestic Abuse’.

Honour Killing is Socially Sanctioned.  It is a COMMUNITY CONSPIRACY.

Domestic Abuse, on the other hand involves the insanity of one, and more than usually, two.


We can not analyze behaviours to seek normal reactions of (victim) escape, (perpetrator) contrition, etc.

The expert on the radio actually compared Brown with Michael Virk–the dude who abused DOGS (and is now apparently very contrite and making public service appearances).

Hurting a DOG is obviously different from hurting a human life partner. (and I never like placing animals as lesser than humans, but in domestic abuse situations, I must–you don’t have sex with your dog, you don’t have children with your dog, you don’t have the complexities of an adult human relationship with a dog)

C’mon people.

I hate when the media fails to spread knowledge, but merely perpetuates further ignorance.

I don’t have high expectations of the likes of Oprah, but this was CBC Radio.


I think in almost all circumstances both partners ought to be held on mental health legislation, for professional intervention and addressing underlying causal conditions.


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[VIDEO] American Citizen Hunting bin Laden Detained in Pakistan

Voice of America News

15 June 2010

Police in northern Pakistan say they have arrested an American who said he was on a solo mission to kill al-Qaida leader Osama bin Laden.

Authorities say they found the man armed with a handgun, a sword, a dagger and night vision equipment in the Chitral region near the Afghan border.  Police say the man was trying to cross into Afghanistan’s Nuristan region because he told them that bin Laden was hiding there.

Authorities in Chitral have identified the man as Gary Faulkner, a construction worker from California.

They say he arrived in Chitral on June 3 and was staying at a local hotel.  Officials there had assigned him a security guard, a step that is quite common for foreigners in remote parts of Pakistan.  Pakistani authorities began searching for Faulkner after the guard noticed that he had disappeared.

Afghanistan’s Nuristan region and Pakistan’s Chitral region are among several rumored hiding spots for the al-Qaida leader. Osama bin Laden’s whereabouts have remained a mystery since the U.S. invasion of Afghanistan in 2001.

A U.S. embassy spokesman says Pakistani authorities have informed American officials of the arrest of a U.S. citizen.

Globe and Mail

California construction worker arrested in Pakistan allegedly on mission to kill Osama bin Laden

American armed with a pistol, night-vision equipment, a book of Christian verses and a 40-inch sword

Munir Ahmed, Riaz Khan

Peshawar, Pakistan — The Associated Press

Tuesday, Jun. 15, 2010

An American armed with a pistol and a 40-inch sword was detained in northern Pakistan and told investigators he was on a solo mission to kill Osama bin Laden, a police officer said Tuesday.

The man was identified as 52-year-old Californian construction worker Gary Brooks Faulkner, said officer Mumtaz Ahmad Khan.

He was picked up in a forest in the Chitral region late on Sunday, he said.

“We initially laughed when he told us that he wanted to kill Osama bin Laden,” said Mr. Khan. But he said when officers seized the pistol, the sword and night-vision equipment, “our suspicion grew.”

He was questioned Tuesday by intelligence officials in Peshawar, the main northwestern city.

Mr. Faulkner told police he visited Pakistan seven times, and this was his third trip to Chitral.

Police alleged the American intended to travel to the eastern Afghan region of Nuristan, just across the border from Chitral.

The area is among several rumoured hiding places for the al-Qaeda leader, who has evaded a massive U.S. effort to capture him since 2001. Bin Laden is accused of being behind the Sept. 11 attacks on the United States, as well other terrorist acts.

Mr. Khan said Mr. Faulkner was also carrying a book containing Christian verses and teachings.

When asked why he thought he had a chance of tracing bin Laden, Mr. Faulkner replied, “God is with me, and I am confident I will be successful in killing him,” said Mr. Khan.

Mr. Faulkner arrived in the Chitrali town of Bumburate on June 3 and stayed in a hotel there.

He was assigned a police guard, as is quite common for foreigners visiting remote parts of Pakistan. When he checked out without informing police, officers began hunting for him, said Mr. Khan.

U.S. Embassy spokesman Richard Snelsire said the mission had received notification from Pakistani officials that an American citizen had been arrested. He said embassy officials were trying to meet the man and confirm his identity.

Inexplicably, this is how suitable wives are ‘selected’ in parts of India as well

June 7, 2010

Off Runway, Brazilian Beauty Goes Beyond Blond

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RESTINGA SÊCA, Brazil — Before setting out in a pink S.U.V. to comb the schoolyards and shopping malls of southern Brazil, Alisson Chornak studies books, maps and Web sites to understand how the towns were colonized and how European their residents might look today. 

The goal, he and other model scouts say, is to find the right genetic cocktail of German and Italian ancestry, perhaps with some Russian or other Slavic blood thrown in. Such a mix, they say, helps produce the tall, thin girls with straight hair, fair skin and light eyes that Brazil exports to the runways of New York, Milan and Paris with stunning success. 

Yet Brazil is not the same country it was in 1994, when Gisele Bündchen, the world’s top earning model, was discovered in a tiny town not far from here. Darker-skinned women have become more prominent in Brazilian society, challenging the notions of Brazilian beauty and success that Ms. Bündchen has come to represent here and abroad. 

Taís Araújo just finished a run as the first black female lead in the coveted 8 p.m. soap opera slot. Marina Silva, a former government minister born in the Amazon, is running for president. And over the past decade, the income of black Brazilians rose by about 40 percent, more than double the rate of whites, as Brazil’s booming economy helped trim the inequality gap and create a more powerful black consumer class, said Marcelo Neri, an economist in Rio de Janeiro. 

Even prosecutors have waded into the debate over what Brazilian society looks like — and how it should be represented. São Paulo Fashion Week, the nation’s most important fashion event, has been forced by local prosecutors to ensure that at least 10 percent of its models are of African or indigenous descent. 

Despite those shifts, more than half of Brazil’s models continue to be found here among the tiny farms of Rio Grande do Sul, a state that has only one-twentieth of the nation’s population and was colonized predominantly by Germans and Italians. 

Indeed, scouts say that more than 70 percent of the country’s models come from three southern states that hardly reflect the multiethnic melting pot that is Brazil, where more than half the population is nonwhite

On the pages of its magazines, Brazil’s beauty spectrum is clearer. Nonwhite women, including celebrities of varying body types, are interspersed with white models. But on the runways, the proving ground for models hoping to go abroad, the diversity drops off precipitously. Prosecutors investigating discrimination complaints against São Paulo Fashion Week found that only 28 of the event’s 1,128 models were black in early 2008. 

The pattern creates a disconnect between what many Brazilians consider beautiful and the beauty they export overseas. While darker-skinned actresses like Juliana Paes and Camila Pitanga are considered among Brazil’s sexiest, it is Ms. Bündchen and her fellow southerners who win fame abroad. 

“I was always perplexed that Brazil was never able to export a Naomi Campbell, and it is definitely not because of a lack of pretty women,” said Erika Palomino, a fashion consultant in São Paulo. “It is embarrassing.” 

Some scouts have begun tepid forays to less-white parts of Brazil. One Brazilian designer, Walter Rodrigues, recently opened Rio Fashion Week with 25 models, all of them black. 

But here in the south scouts still spend most of their time hunting for the next Gisele, and offer few apologies for what they say sells. 

Clóvis Pessoa studies facial traits that are successful on international runways and looks for towns in the south that mirror those genes. 

“If a famous top model looks German with a Russian nose, I will do a scientific study and look for cities that were colonized by Germans and Russians in the south of Brazil in order to get a similar face down here,” Mr. Pessoa said. 

Dilson Stein, who discovered Ms. Bündchen when she was 13, called Rio Grande do Sul a treasure trove of model-worthy girls. A year before discovering Ms. Bündchen, whose parents are of German ancestry, he found 12-year-old Alessandra Ambrosio, now famous for her Victoria’s Secret shoots. 

Today, younger scouts like Mr. Chornak have taken up the mantle. With catlike quickness, he jumped from his chair and strode up behind a tall girl with a hooded sweatshirt. “Have you ever thought of being a model?” he asked a 13-year-old with light blue eyes and pimples. 

The girl smiled, her metal braces glimmering. 

Later, Mr. Chornak pulled up at a school where the director, Liliane Abrão Silva, showed off albums from school beauty contests. She allows scouts to visit during class breaks. 

“Since I got to this school, five have left for São Paulo to become models,” she said. “The girls who do not have money to go to university will have to stay here and work in the fields.” 

The next morning, Mr. Chornak studied the girls returning with red lollipops from recess. “There is nothing special here,” he declared. 

At another stop, Mr. Chornak staked out a school in Paraíso do Sul (population 8,000) with the tools of his trade: business cards, camera, measuring tape and a notebook. 

The bell rang and students streamed out. Mr. Chornak stopped a tall, skinny blond girl. Within seconds he was fluffing her hair and taking her measurements, directing her to pose against the wall. 

Mr. Chornak also drove to Venâncio Aires, where a billboard heralded “the land of the Fantastic Girl,” alluding to a television show that featured a local girl. 

At a small tobacco farm he visited Michele Meurer, a blue-eyed 16-year-old discovered while riding her bicycle to school. Timid and shy, she cried profusely the first time she went to São Paulo. The next time, she lasted six days before Mr. Chornak sent her home. 

Her mother, who grew up speaking German, had never left the town until the São Paulo trip. They live in a four-room house with chickens and dogs. Michele keeps the freezer in her room for lack of space. 

Mr. Chornak counsels Michele to use sunscreen while working in the fields and to watch her diet. Bursting with pride, her father enrolled her in English classes in case she went abroad. 

“I want to give them a better life,” Michele said tearfully of her parents. 

Recently, she went to São Paulo again, where Mr. Chornak put her in a three-bedroom apartment with 11 other girls. Two weeks before São Paulo Fashion Week, Michele packed up and left. 

“I am very disappointed that Michele gave up,” Mr. Chornak said. “I invested a lot in her.” 

Myrna Domit contributed reporting.